In my first playthrough Kaidan died and I didn't realize I triggered the romance thing until I replayed the Trilogy a second time around.
In my second playthrough I wanted to keep Kaidan unromanced but also romancing Garrus a second time around, in order to get a non-Kaidan in ME 3, BUT I ended up triggering the romance by accident once again, and since I hate cheating on people well... I Virmired Kaidan once again !
Fixed? You still get plenty of options that really aren't Paragon or Renegade or could easily be assigned to either. Why is it Paragon to criticize reestablishing the genophage when everyone agrees that it probably would have resulted in more Krogan rebellions and the other options included genocide? Why is it Paragon to rewrite Geth minds but Renegade to destroy them?
I know right?? In fact, in some scene, no matter what dialogue option you pick, Shepard says the same thing, word for word, and the only difference is whether you get +2 paragon points, +2 renegade points, or no points.